Sunday, May 18, 2008
Why
I want to marry a Gold Digger
I have become renowned for being Single unfortunately. Most of my peers
have been married for years and have several children. In 5 years I will be the
same age as my grand mother when she first achieved that title. As you can
imagine from friends and family a like I am constantly getting grilled and
lectured over my solitary status. I have countless scouts that out of love and
concern, diligently look underneath every rock and tree for a help mate to get
me hitched to. Every time I speak somewhere in my introduction the host makes
sure to comment, “By the way Ladies he is Single!!!” Followed by the token pity
howls, given by those that were let in the room for free. I used to like it in
fact. I used to imagine myself as some dangerously handsome tycoon in “Time”
magazine as one of the worlds most eligible bachelors. I had a bit of a swagger
because of it, a smirk on my face and a pep in my step. Then I turned 30. As I
tend to do, I did a little soul searching and realized that I was lonely. A
quote from David O McKay kept haunting me. “No success can compensate for
failure in the home.” I was a different type of homeless, one with just as few
legitimate excuses as the other type bumming for change at a freeway off ramp.
Around then I realized it was time to adjust my priorities and date with
marriage in mind. Not to ask some one on a date because I planned on marrying
them, but to date someone to look for the possibility of marriage with them.
This type of dating to me is like a very long job interview and can be
exponentially more mentally taxing. Desperately trying to find out if my date
has an axe murderer penned up inside of her and knowing she is wondering the
same thing about me. That’s usually when I think myself into a panic and start
acting weird in consequence to trying so hard to act
normal.
In the midst of all of this however I have learned a lot about what matters
most to me in finding a wife. There are many qualities of course that are an
absolute must. Spirituality, mutual physical attraction, the ability to
communicate effectively, wants children, etc. but there is one thing that I have
come to appreciate as much or more than all the others. I don’t know how to
label this quality except to say that it is the quality to appreciate the
qualities in me.
There are a lot of things us quirky humans find
endearing, that everyone else could care less about. The way we mispronounce a
word, how we slurp our soup or snort when we laugh. Those types of things I feel
are important. However it is not what causes love, it’s a by product of
love.
People fall in love for too many reasons to count. Usually it is a
combination of reasons. But I want someone to fall in love with me because I am
a man of ability and achievement. Not because I have a lot of friends (not
saying I do) but for the reason people want to befriend me, not because I have
tons of money (not saying I do) but because I have the ability to earn a ton of
money. Not because of my accomplishments but because I am a man of
accomplishment. In fact I wouldn’t want to marry anyone if they loved me and
these were not at least some of the reasons why.
There is a
phrase with a stigma attached I find interesting, “Gold Digger”. Now I obviously
don’t like the stereotypical Gold digger. The phrase “Gold Digger” has come to
mean in our society a man or a woman who marries for money, usually as an easy
road to material gain with out any effort or productivity of their own. To reap
what you have not sown is no better than a thief, mooch or a looter. However I
couldn’t think of a better phrase to describe what I desire in an Eternal
Companion. I want someone to love me for the Gold that is with in me and is
willing to dig with me to extract it. I heard someone once say, “Speak to the
king within the man and within the man the king will appear.”
Now
obviously for this to work whether we are married or single we need to work hard
every day to make the most of ourselves. It means that I must strive to spend my
time laboring to be worthy of such a women. Not only to be a man of ability but
to the have the ability to see the women of ability. I believe like attracts
like which means we tend to gravitate to those like us. Like a tuning fork will
resonate with keys, chords and crystals of the same pitch, the proper person
will resonate with who you are. So if this all true, if what we want is the very
best shouldn’t we try to be the very best? In fact isn’t that the only way we
can possibly accomplish that.
I think all of us myself included spend
much more time trying to find the right one, when we should be trying to become
the right one. If you desire someone that is physically fit, the best way to
accomplish that is to be physically fit yourself. If you want someone to be
spiritually sound, the good news is there are plenty of them out there. However
because they are spiritually sound they are only looking for people who are
spiritually sound. A good exercise to do is to take those lists we used to make
in our adolescence of what we wanted in a spouse and up date them and then rate
our selves 1-10 on how we are doing in those categories ourselves. It is an eye
opener. I realized the reason I wasn’t married wasn’t because the type of person
I was looking for doesn’t exist but that the type of person I wanted wouldn’t be
interested in me.
Doing this has given me more purpose in my personal
development. It has given me a stronger “why” for the things I do every day. It
has also helped me to weigh in opportunity cost on the decisions I make and how
it affects the person I am and the people I attract. It really has in my biased
opinion made me a better person. Or in other words has increased the Gold mine
inside of me.
For those already married similar rules I think would
apply. I have noticed that some remain frustrated at their spouse for various
character flaws that they have. What they usually don’t understand is those same
character flaws are in them too. In fact that is usually at least partially what
attracted them to each other. If we want things to change in our relationship,
we can not do it by taking a way the agency of another. We can only change
things by changing ourselves. As Jim Rohn says, “for things to change, you have
to change.” It is the “if it is to be it’s up to me” philosophy. Only by working
on ourselves can we guarantee results, because then if nothing else we have
bettered all our relationships because we bring a better us to the table. Then
by so doing we liberate others to do the same, we provide an example to others
to follow suit. Then together progression becomes easier and happens and a
higher rate.
This life is a beautiful life. A life that is all the more
beautiful when we find someone of like mind, heart and spirit to share it with.
Genesis is right, “It is not good that man, (or woman) should be alone.”
Certainly the synergy, that comes from a marriage of two equally yoked people
yields limitless potential. I was asked to give a Eulogy a few years ago. I went
to interview the wife of the man I was eulogizing at his bed side hours before
he passed away. She told me plenty of stories and facts about his life but one
thing she said in passing stuck out to me the most. She said “We ran a great
race”. How fortunate to be able to say that. To run hand in hand to create a
better world, to extract and have extracted the best that is with in us that can
only be accessed by the companionship of someone. Someone, who sees the very
best in you.
Sunday, May 11, 2008
Stepping
Stones and Stumbling Blocks
Last week I had a very special experience. If
I ever had any doubt in the law of attraction made famous by the Secret, it was
gone after last week. A friend and I went to visit a mutual friend of ours that
had recently got married and had moved into a near by apartment complex. Shortly
after we arrived we agreed that such a beautiful day shouldn’t be wasted and
decided to go down to the complex pool. As I walked in I saw a man relaxing in
the pool. As I got closer I realized that this man although normal in every
other way, had no arms and no legs. I hate to admit it but I stared a little,
not because I saw him as a spectacle but more because I couldn’t believe that I
saw him correctly. I also noticed the man seemed content. There was no
bitterness, pain, or any look of being worn out by what life had dealt him in
his face. In fact he had a subtle smile as he lay in the sun. As I began to
apply the necessary sun block, I thought to my self. “I wonder if this is
because of an accident, or if he was born this way?” The next thought I had was,
“If this guy knew what he was capable of doing and who he was capable of
touching with his story, he could do the world an impact full service.”
For the next 15 minutes my friends and I were talking about business things and
how much money we had lost or gained in the stock market. Then this man piped up
and started talking about Stock trading, before long him and I just got into a
detailed conversation about his circumstances. Come to find out this young man
was Nick Vujicic. Nick is a native Australian who for no rhyme or reason was
born limbless. Now 25 years old has become a motivational speaker and has spoken
all around the world to more than 2 million people. He has spoken at the Crystal
Cathedral, been on 20/20 and is scheduled to be on Oprah later this year. He
told me about his struggles, heart break and many of his triumphs. We spoke
about our mutual passion for motivational speaking and our goals to make the
world a better place. When I finally left I grabbed his phone number and email,
and he said “Give me a hug, I don’t like hand shakes” as you could imagine I was
happy to do so and knelt down and gave him a hug. When I got home I looked him
up on youtube.com and watched countless videos in various languages. I watched a
video in Spanish where he demonstrates himself swimming, putting on a shirt,
making and eating an omelet brushing his teeth, walking his dog, answering and
talking on his cell phone and typing on his computer more than 40 words a
minute. All with out limbs and with out any assistance from any one. It will
come to no surprise to you that the book Nick is writing is titled, “No limbs,
No Limits”. I can not tell you how grateful I am that Nick and I both visiting
from somewhere else per chance met at a random apartment complex pool to discuss
our shared craft of speaking and philosophize on the great potential of a human
being.
It is humbling to here this man speak of his gratitude for the
type of life God had granted him. To be grateful for a life with no arms or legs
and to share his thoughts of abundant living with the world is very telling of
the type of man he is. It makes me wonder, what is the rest of our excuse? It is
hard to her someone’s sob story of why they didn’t have any opportunity to make
it in this life when you know there are people like Nick thriving. Talking to
him made me realize how wealthy all of us really are. How much we have been
given free of charge from our Beautiful God is very apparent if we only choose
to look for it. We have all often heard complaints of people being with out
money and inconsequence live unfortunate lives. Lives they feel that all
problems would be solved with money. To that cadence I would ask, how much then
would you sell your arms and legs for? Would a million, billion or trillion make
you even think twice? Is there any amount of money that you would take for them?
If not then, you must admit you have been given plenty compared to Nick Vujicic.
However with what he has been given, look what he has done with it.
The difference between a Stumbling Block and Stepping Stone is the Character of
the individual walking the path. To me this is a lesson learned that any of us
no matter what lot we have been given in life, can, like the Phoenix rise from
out of the ash and accomplish absolutely anything that we choose to. All that is
required is that we acknowledge what we have and the source of where it comes.
Once we have done that our own limbs become unbound and we become free to do and
have anything. True is the title of Nick’s book, but the “No limits” part
applies to all of us. It’s obvious that what is important to Nick’s success in
life has nothing to do with arms and legs but has everything to do with the
mastery of Nick’s mind. And so it is with all of us. Since we can not put a
price tag on our arms and legs, let’s take it a step further. What kind of price
tag do you think Nick puts on his positive attitude, his vision for a better
world, his belief in himself? I did not ask him those questions but I already
know his answer and in my opinion he values those things a lot more than most of
us value our arms and legs.
So next time you think of yourself in a bad
spot with less than just circumstances or feeling like you are in a no light at
the end of the tunnel situation. Remember that there is always someone else out
there that has done more, with less, then think of Nick.
I do not believe
in coincidences. I believe that I met him so that he could improve my life and
hopefully in a small way by sharing his story, I could improve yours. I look
forward to the day that I will undoubtedly share the stage with Nick Vujicic and
we can share the story of our chance encounter and what a great day that will
be. For more information about Nick Vujicic, go to his website. http://www.lifewithoutlimbs.org/ and look him up on
http://www.youtube.com/ Also feel free to visit
Monday, May 5, 2008
Introduction
to "Raising You"
Alright kids after much deliberation, I have
decided to post the introduction to the book I am writing. It is not
Biographical although it may seem that way from the introduction. It is heavy
and I hesitated posting it because it is only partially edited and very
revealing. My biggest concern is that some of you may see me seeking pity as a
motive. However there is no reason for pity. What you soon will read in my
opinion has been the most valuable time of my life. I would change nothing. I
have thanked and continue to thank the Lord for these experiences. I see them
strictly as blessings and count myself fortunate for them. Furthermore I have
suffered no negative side effects from this. With the exception of a dis-taste
for insects ( you'll see what I mean). This fact, relative to many of the
stories I have heard is a miracle. Which is yet another reason I have to be
grateful. Thanks go to Katie Barnes for helping me with the Editing. If you see
a grammatical error it's because I didn't let her scourer it yet. The name of
the book is "Raising You" I'll explain the meaning of the title in a later post.
I'm not afraid of any comments so don't be afraid to post them.
Enjoy.
My
childhood unfortunately was very much like any child’s that had drug addict
parents. My father was never around which left my siblings and I to the fate
given by my mother. A good woman, with the intent at an early age to be a loving
mom. A few poor decisions changed that. As she progressively got more involved
in drugs she progressively got less capable of raising children. Most commonly
was a beating for waking her up. It hurt but we got used to it. I learned how to
turn so that when she hit me she would strike my back and arms, the pain was
less there. If it was just that I think it would have been relatively
manageable. It was not it however. You see when you are high on meth for a week
when you eventually come down there is a lot of sleep to catch up on. When you
sleep, for four days with a house full of kids, there isn’t any food cooked. We
would eat what was there but before long what was edible would be eaten or rot
and then what was rotten would be eaten too. I don’t remember much of this I can
only think of one instance where I found a piece of moldy bread on the side of
the fridge which represented the last thing we could eat. I remember being
teased by canned food. Knowing full well what was in the can but not knowing how
to use a can opener. I remember the filth admittedly caused by us kids that
compounded on itself for weeks and months at a time. With that came thousands
and thousands of roaches. My sisters and I found some amusement in the fact that
an entire colony of albino roaches had broken out so that house looked like a
bunch of moving salt and pepper crawling on everything. To this day I only have
one phobia, roaches. There was nothing more disgusting to me than to wake up to
feel roaches crawling on my body. The good news is that we finally lost that
house. The bad news is our next option was to live in a camper shell in my Aunts
back yard. We kept it next to the Garage where the washer and dryer were. The
washer wasn’t hooked up to plumbing so the dirty water would drain into the back
yard and stagnate there. We were there for more than a year four feet tall, five
feet wide and six feet long, my mother, my three sisters and I. We didn’t have
the convenience of bathing every day so we tended to stink. I didn’t mind going
with out a bath that much really. I was a boy like most and didn’t have a
problem being dirty. But I was scared of bathing because if I once got the
bathroom floor wet and my mother accused of me of urinating on the floor and
threw me half way through a wall.
School wasn’t much better, when your
clothes are as dirty as the rest of you and you stink and have lice you don’t
make a ton of friends. Sadly as you could imagine I was mocked for my
appearance. Nothing too harsh, no where close to what was said at home. I will
not give much detail on that as I feel it is inappropriate to state. I will say
though I have never heard in any movie, on any street corner, or amongst the
vilest of men any string of words so offensive and hateful, said with such
disgust as was the words that my mother said to my sisters and I. I remember my
mother emptying a revolver on the car my father was driving and my father
subsequently taking an axe to my mother’s belongings and destroying them. I
remember being on the other side of the front door when my father kicked it
down. The police were called that time along with many others, but I knew what
had to be said and knew they would leave us to more of the same. I remember the
day I came to the conclusion there was a God. I was 6. I screamed as loud as I
could all day long for my near by grand mother to get me and take me for the
weekend. I screamed so long and loud that I actually woke up my comatose mother
long enough to beat me for waking her up. When she went back to bed I went back
to screaming to God. Sure enough that evening she came and picked me up, while
my mother slept. I could go on and tell you more of mine and worse stories of my
siblings but I think enough has been said. I will say that this is nothing,
nothing at all compared to the whole of it. This continued until I was ten, when
I ran away and I never came back.
During this time I could think of two fond
memories of my childhood. The first was Sesame street. My Sisters and I watched
it everyday and it took our minds to Sesame street where kids were happy and
learning. It took our minds away from All wood Dr. where we got the Hell beat out
of us.
The other was visiting the home of my Great-Grandfather Vic. My Mother
didn’t have very much family and even less that she got along with, but she
adored my Grandfather. He only lived about an hour away from our family in
southern California, but it was rare that she was in any condition that she’d
let Vic see her in. About twice a year my Mother would fix herself and us up
enough for a visit with my Grandfather. For the most part our visits would be
stereotypical. He’d take us out for pizza, to walk his dogs, play checkers and
with other toys he kept for us, and taught me how to write the alphabet. However
there was one thing that was out of the ordinary about our visits. Every time
before my Mother, siblings and I would leave I would go to hug my Grandfather
goodbye. Without exception before I received my coveted hug the cheery casual
countenance of my Grandfather would change to something very serious. He would
then grab me by my shoulders and shake me, then would follow those words, those
words that alter every aspect of my life, “Travis, you need to know that you are
special, that there is not anything that you can’t do. There is something great
inside you. You’re special Travis, don’t you ever forget it.” That was quickly
followed by a rigid hug that would squeeze the breath out of me.
Now there is
an easy explanation for why my life has been in my opinion, amazing. It is the
same reason I have had success financially and otherwise. It is the same reason
I feel that every facet of my life has been blessed and continues to be more and
more everyday. The reason is that the words my Grandfather said were spoken with
such conviction that I believed him. You see what I wasn’t aware of then, that I
have since figured out was my Grandfather was savvy to the way Mother was
raising her children. She would often make remarks while coming down from drugs
about how miserable we all were, that we ruined her life, that we were
worthless. Although those words hurt very deeply as you could imagine; every
time she would scream those words I would hear his words instead, every time I
would feel her fist sink into my back, I could feel my Grandfather’s hands on my
shoulders, and I knew she couldn’t reach what was great inside of me. And again
I’d hear the words “You’re special Travis, don’t ever forget it.” Then in my
mind I would think, “This woman has no idea what she is talking about, she
doesn’t know that I am special.” No matter how loud she’d yell those colorful
words, she could never top the conviction of my Great-Grandfather Vic. Since
then I have come to realize two things. First my Great-Grandfather was right, I
am special. I took his advice; I never forgot it and I never will. Second I have
learned I am no better than anyone else. So as you read this book I hope that
you will let these pages grab you by the shoulders and shake you and tell you
that you are special. That there is something great inside you. I pray that you
will allow the words you read stare deep into your eyes and instill into you
that there isn’t anything that you can not do. My desire is that this book will
do for you what Grandpa Vic did for me. Help me believe what is already true.
That you are special.
Tuesday, April 22, 2008
Creating
An Amazing Day.
"In the beginning God created the Heaven and
the Earth." (Genesis 1:1) I think most of us have at least a descent
understanding on how the story goes in terms of creating the Earth. I think a lot
of us how ever skip over or at least don't pay much attention to the Creating
Heaven part. Maybe it is because Heaven is so unfathomable that we are unable to
comprehend it so rather than spend time on it we focus on what is a little
easier to comprehend, the Earth. None the less, there it is. God actually took
the time to create Heaven. I have never thought of Heaven actually being created
in all its glory and splendor. God didn't just occupy it but created
it.
Why do I find that to be a big deal? Well first off if you
read the ancient text of the bible and other works, you'll find that before God
created the earth or anything else in its physical form, he first created it in
a spiritual less tangible form. In addition to that, the order of creating
things physically was not in the same order as things created spiritual. In fact
physically man may have come last in creation, but spiritually man came first.
But perhaps the biggest kicker of all is that not only did God create the Earth
and everything on it but he allowed us to assist in it's
creation.
Now if you think about that for a while, it should blow
you away. To think that we actually had power to create something so beautiful
and glorious. However it makes since. Most of us freely accept the fact that
God is our Heavenly Father, and like any child as they grow and progress they
tend to take on the traits of their parents. So really this great power to
create is our nature. The most obvious proof of this is that every day millions
of babies are born. That's why we call the act of making babies
procreating".
Baby making is not our only creating skill.
Our earth is full of amazing creations that with the intelligence granted to us
by our Heavenly Father, that man has created. Giant Skyscrapers and bridges,
amazing technology, awe inspiring music etc. But what we probably don't realize
at least consciously is just Like God Created way back when, all those things were
first created in Spiritual form. Take the Golden Gate bridge for example;
someone, one day had the thought to build this enormous bridge that would act as
a conduit to transport people across the San Francisco Bay. The bridge further
created on paper by drawing up plans with mathematical and geometric equations to
assure the bridge would prove sufficient. Then the creation we all think about
finally came to pass as the physical structure was put together and viola, the
bridge is one of the greatest man made structures ever built. But it all began
with the intangible spiritual creation of thought followed then by creating it
on paper and so forth.
What the Blog is all about is doing what
was originally done so very long ago. If you read that first chapter of Genesis
it is amazing to see how much actually got done in what is referred to as a day.
No doubt this was possible because as I have already mentioned it was all ready
created before then. Since we are children of God and have been given the power
to create. My suggestion is to use the same formula that was used to create an
amazing day in Genesis and use it to create an amazing day now and every day
there after.
Every day for 6 years I have started my day by finishing it
first. I take a 3X5 card and a pen and I start to give the day some thought. At
first I wrote 6 things that I found essential to do every day and then would put
a few more things I needed to do or wanted to do. As time went on and I finally
got in the habit of getting my 6 daily things done I added a seventh. Once I
mastered the seventh I mastered an eighth and so on. I now have 13 things that I
do on a daily basis. I usually add half a dozen or so other things that need to
get done, or things that I want to do to have fun. So once I fill out my 3X5
card, i take a moment and look at it. I ask myself if this was all to get done
would it be an amazing day? (Cheesy I Know) Sometimes the answer is yes,
sometimes No. However I never start the day until I can say that this is going to
be a day for the ages. Once that is done, I am jacked out of my mind and I get
to work. I have increased my productivity more than 5x's what I used to be and
I have mastered certain aspects of my life that I would have never done if I
didn't keep myself conscious to do it.
Some of my days I create the day
with ultimate productivity in mind. Others I am looking for a lesson to be
learned or to have a life experience. Sometimes the goal is to do some service
or philanthropy, but always when all is said and done, you tend to get what you
focus on. It is as simple as that. Write down what you want life to bring you
today and chances are life will bring it to you on a silver platter. Let me give
you an example of what a day would look like, here is my list today.
1)
Prayer 2) read Scriptures 3) Read 10pgs of a good book 4) Listen to 30 Minutes
of Personal Development 5) work out 6) Money making stuff 6A) East Valley Email
6B) Team email 6C) Plan conference call 6D) plan Colorado Training 6E) Update
Calendar
7) journal 8) Ensign Article 9) Affirmation 10) Visualization 11)
Yoga 12) 30 minutes of Spanish
13) Walk 2 Miles 14) Pack For Colorado 15)
Passport Stuff 16) Apply for Corporate credit 17)Clean House 18) Touch up paint
19) Finish Blog 20) Mail Package 21) Buy Camera
Now That is a full day,
with getting things done in mind. It's a lot but because I've been doing this
everyday for a while slowly I have been able to get more accomplished, Granted
it's not creating Oceans and Countless animals but based on the same principles
that our Father in Heaven followed, I am able to create my own amazing days. May
you live all the days of your life, we have a limited supply of them and the
clock is ticking
Wednesday, April 16, 2008
Auto
Suggestion
One of the most impactful things I have
learned was from the Author Napoleon Hill. He has taught a great deal about
thoughts being things and the more intensely we focus on the achievement of
something the more "the law of attraction" works in our favor. To enhance this
principal he recommended "Auto Suggestion" or vocally exclaiming what we want to
do, be and have.
Every year most of us make New Years resolutions and if
you are anything like me, its easy to fall back into the habits of yesteryear
and lose focus on our goals and back to the drawing board we go. For the past 3
years, I have done something different that has made all the difference in me
becoming the person by the end of the year that desired to be at the beginning
of the year. I take the month of December and do a huge self evaluation of me
for the good, the bad and even the ugly, and based on all that, I get busy being
ambitious and create the accomplished individual I want to be on paper. I will
read it and adjust the wording several times until I can feel the power of the
words internally. Then come January 1st at least once a day, usually to music
(enya) I read it loud and animated. After a few months with no effort it is
memorized and becomes part of my regular daily thoughts and in consequence the
person I am becoming is always at the forethought of my mind. My daily actions
are based upon the words I speak daily and my life becomes what I want it to
be.
No doubt anyone that knows me, knows I am very much a work in
progress with a lot of work to progress on, but progress I will. I hope this
inspires you to do something similar to make you a better you, to help you be
the best you. After all it's our choice. I will leave 2008's affirmation to give
you an idea of what it is I do. Depending on how well you know me will depend on
how much sense it makes. I hope you enjoy it, but if you don't that's cool
too...
2008 Affirmation
This Year will be the Best year of my life. This
is the year that will eclipse all others. I will earn more, learn more, travel
more, serve more, love more, give more and be more than all the other years of
my life combined. True other years now past have been at times magnificent but
none like this. This is a year of metamorphosis, of growth and accomplishment
that at previous was unimaginable. A year where the impossible become common
place, and the unachievable become effortlessly achieved. Where I raise myself
to heights only visited by the great men and women of this world and by so doing
this year will be the best year of my life.
And how will I do this?
By strict obedience to the commandments of God. By seeking out the words of the
Lord through searching the scriptures and through the voice of his chosen
servants. By communing with the Lord through daily prayer and by emulating him
in my thoughts my words and my deeds. Through compassionate service, random acts
of kindness, unconditional love, and an acknowledgment of the true source of all
blessings with gratitude in my heart. And when I fail, I will learn from my
mistakes, strengthen my resolve and be better than I was before. I will take
this same discipline of the Spiritual and apply it to the Physical by arising
early to start each day with exercise that strengthens the body and refreshes
the mind. I will only eat nurturing foods that provide me energy sufficient to
accomplish the days task with enthusiasm and confidence. What will I do to
improve my finances? I will work harder, yes, but more importantly I will work
smarter and learn to leverage myself and get more out of one day then I
previously got out of a month. I will succeed through integrity and through the
selfless service of others. Through the powerful forces that structure the mind
I will tap into the source of infinite intelligence and be more efficient in all
my endeavors and be an exponentially greater asset to this world. The money I
earn I will not waste frivolously but instead invest wisely so that my wealth
will begat more wealth and I will be more empowered by wealth to better my life
and the lives of others. However the best way for me to better the lives of
others will not be in the giving of my wealth but in the giving of my heart. I
will love and then love more, I will serve and then serve more, I will forgive
and then forgive more. I will follow the Golden rule that I may follow my Savior
and be transparent yet not exposed. I will not let these thoughts fade but
instead remind myself of them daily and spend time visualizing myself in the
accomplishment of them until the day that my thoughts become reality. Then I
will not stop but press forward to new goals and new heights in my quest to
change this world.
And how will all of this benefit me in this the
best year of my life? I will be worthy of all the great blessings the Lord has
to offer. I will have a 32 inch waste and be at my Pinnacle health. I will have
earned the six figure ring, succeeded at real estate, and have multiple streams
of income from my other entrepreneurial endeavors. I will be a published Author
and effortlessly doing what I was meant to do to better my life and the lives of
others. I will associate with more successfully minded people to be a teacher as
well as a student. I will travel this great country and this great planet
gaining rich experiences found by very few. I will find an eternal companion
that enhances me exponentially and countless other goals that at one point I
dare not even dream. Through all this will 2008 be the best year of my life,
which will lay the foreground for 2009 to dwarf the accomplishments of 2008.
This year will be the best year of my life and I will
succeed
Monday, April 14, 2008
Why
we are here...
I can't say that I have ever done a blog
before. Till now I have felt it to be a little trendy for my taste. However I
have been feeling a little pensive lately and just felt like writing my thoughts
down. I don't care too badly if anyone reads this, I guess it is just more for
me.
I love my life. Why I have been so blessed, is hard for me to understand.
I have fantastic visionary friends. A supportive family. Most importantly the
Gospel of Jesus Christ. I have been put in a good place financially the past few
years and more and more everyday I have a greater passion about this life I have
been given. I can honestly say that I awake every single day happy. I am
motivated by it. To make it a day better than the last. To go to bed better than
I woke up and to do it all over again the next day.
I guess that is why I am
writing this. I feel as if it is the way to live. To have purpose, to have
righteous desire to make this world a better place because you are in it. It is
trendy these days for comedians and celebrities and the country in general, to
blame our problems on our President his cabinet and whoever else they can. My
question is who decides how much TV we watch on a daily basis, how much time do
we spend in negative conversation of family members and co workers. The reading
of the latest of Brittney and K-Fed rather than a book about how to better
yourself. Or even the music about random sex violence and living like an
animal.
My point being that these same people that are at home engaged in
these activities are the same people blaming someone else for how pathetic their
life is. Making no connection that it might not be some guy in the Whitehouse
that it is to blame. If you want to know why life is the way it is, For the good
or the bad, you don't have to look any farther than the nearest mirror. That's
right it is my opinion that 100% of where you are depends on you. Now you don't
have to agree but if you will do yourself the favor of accepting 100%
responsibility for where you are in life, then and only then can you change your
life.
You see, if you choose to blame someone else than you have no power.
For things to change they have to change and chances are they wont because
honestly they are probably doing just fine. But if you want your life to change,
it can, if you choose to change. If you want to lose 20 lbs President Bush can't
go to the gym for you. If you want to get a promotion at work Condoleezza Rice
can't decide to be a little more productive than your counter parts. If you want
a more successful marriage, Dick Cheney can't pry your hand off the remote and
place it on the hand of your spouse that hasn't heard the words I love you in six
months.
My point being is that it has nothing to do with who is running the
White house it matters who is running your house. For whatever reason in the
midst of all our courses in college there isn't a class called responsibility
101. If we would just live up to our own situation and be proactive in knowing
we all alone just as one person can make a difference in our own life and the
lives of countless others this world would be infinitely better. We all in my
opinion are children of God. When a king has a son we call him a prince, destine
to become a king himself. Well we are the children of the King of kings. As the
adage says the apple doesn't fall far from the tree. And if we are children of
one that has power to create worlds without number than we have power to change
this world.
I think Marianne Williamson said it best:
Our greatest
fear is not that we are inadequate, but that we are powerful beyond
measure.
It is our light, not our darkness, that frightens us. We ask
ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, handsome, talented and
fabulous?
Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God.
Your
playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about
shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you.
We were born
to make manifest the glory of God within us. It is not just in some; it is in
everyone.
And, as we let our own light shine, we consciously give other people
permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our fear, our presence
automatically liberates others."
We Only live once, we don't get another
shot if we screw it up. Why not live life to the fullest. On our death bed, none
of us will wish they watched more TV or read more tabloids or listen to foul
music, and they certainly wont wish that they blamed there lives on someone else
a little more.
It is my prayer that we live all the days of our lives. That
we will be brave enough to unplug from the matrix and let the greatness within
us manifest to all the world so that you will provide courage for others to do
the same. Then can you live an abundant fulfilling life with out regret. A life
that most are afraid to even dream about. I know that such a life exist. That it
is intended for all of us. The Savior said: I have come that they might have
life and have it more abundantly. That is my wish for all of you. You can have
it if you can only convince the one in the mirror. This is why I think to some
degree why we are here.
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